[In connection with the news about a controversy in the U.K. that Gerry Whyte sent us earlier this week (here), this item--from the January 27th issue of The Tablet--is of interest:]
A Love Found Wanting
Martin Reynolds
This
week, the Catholic Church stated that its adoption agencies would have
to close if the Government forced them to accept applications from gay
couples. Here, a gay Anglican priest describes how he and his Catholic
partner took on a child and why they wish to do so again
We
are a family with mixed religious backgrounds. Chris, my partner of 27
years, is a Roman Catholic and I am an Anglican priest. Our son is 19
now and preparing for college. We first got to know him 15 years ago,
and for 10 years we were respite carers, with him staying with us for a
third of his time. Then five years ago his family relationships broke
down. He came to live with us permanently and we became his long-term
foster carers. He is a wonderful lad whose severe learning difficulties
and behavioural problems are but a tiny part of that whole person we
have come to love with all our hearts.
At first we were
reluctant to take him on full time for we already had my mother living
with us and her frailty and health problems did not seem to be a good
match with his needs. We should not have worried; they are firm friends
and co-conspirators when our son is in the doghouse.
Our lives
have all been transformed by this new family member and the
extra-special care his needs demand. His prayer is awesome in its
simplicity and directness and until recently he has enjoyed going to
Mass with my partner. He occasionally comes with me - but he wants to
say the Mass with me, and some of the congregation find that
distracting.
While he has been preparing himself to start going
to college in September our son has said that the one thing he wants
more than anything else when he comes home are brothers and sisters.
Chris and I were taken aback by this but, after a lot of thought and
seeing how great he is with younger children in the family, we decided
to try.
"Trying" in our case means applying to fostering and
adoption agencies, and we did try, among others, the local Catholic
adoption agency here in Cardiff, offering our experience and a loving
home for two more children. Perhaps Chris was a little naive in
thinking that as a Christian home bringing up the kids in the Catholic
faith, this would somehow make the difference. As well as wanting the
confidence that comes from dealing with fellow Christians, the Catholic
adoption agencies have a super record of placing children with severe
disability and giving first-class support afterwards.
The
selection process for all adopting families is exhaustive. Highly
skilled social workers spend long hours intruding very rightly in every
area of your life. It takes many months of meetings to prepare a report
for the adoption panel that will decide to support your application or
not. Having been a panel member for many years I know how detailed and
revealing these reports are and the struggle people endure to complete
the process.
When we telephoned our local Catholic agency, the St
David's Children Society in Cardiff, we explained our circumstances
truthfully. The receptionist told us that they did not accept gay
couples as adopters. To be turned down without even being asked your
name, seems, in the circumstances, rather a harsh dismissal. Gerry
Cooney, the agency's director, was disturbed by this account, and says,
"Our policy written into our procedures for at least the last two years
has been to redirect gay couples to local authorities and other
voluntary agencies sympathetically and supportively." There are other
agencies of course, and two have taken a keen interest in taking us to
the panel stage, but since that day of rejection Chris has not taken
our son to Mass at a Catholic church. Nor has he been able to go to
Mass alone - a source of great sadness for both of us since our faith
has been a driving force.
Rejection is something you must expect
in this difficult process, we may still meet that at the end of the
road when the adoption panel meets late in the year, but to meet
rejection at the front door of your own Church is hard to bear and
Chris is suffering.
The process of becoming a long-term foster
parent or adopting is discriminatory in itself, and for the sake of the
children it needs to be. The children we are contemplating taking into
our lives and homes are among the most challenging (and rewarding) in
our community. But we believe they deserve our getting a hearing. And
if, after all the careful sifting and detailed analysis, we are found
wanting, then so be it.
Of course we are not unaware that the
language coming from the Vatican in recent years about gay couples has
been increasingly tempestuous. But each time it seemed that the
sensible bishops of the English and Welsh hierarchy have had the sense
and compassion to rush to moderate its bitterest edges.
The
document from the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith in 2003
saying that giving adopted children to gay couples was "doing them
violence" was a particular low point in my partner's relationship with
his Catholic faith and each week he would remove pamphlets that
referred to it from the back of the church. Now the bishops of England
and Wales appear to want to toe the Vatican line. Last Tuesday I
noticed that the Archbishop of Birmingham, Vincent Nichols, refused to
take part in a live debate with the Labour MP Chris Bryant on Channel 4
News and insisted on being interviewed separately. Earlier in the day,
Archbishop Peter Smith of Birmingham told Premier Christian Radio that
he did not have time to discuss the issue with me on their Drivetime
programme. I think the archbishops are afraid that we are going to ask
some very difficult questions.
The fact is that there is great
inconsistency in the Church's approach. Some Catholic adoption agencies
in England and Wales welcome applications from unmarried couples with
no faith - singles and even gay or lesbian singles. The real question
here is that of civil partnerships, for the solid legal foundation that
civil partnership (and marriage for same-sex couples elsewhere in
Europe) offers to lesbian and gay people is being perceived by Rome as
an enormous threat, and the adoption issue is almost a side bar to that.
In
the end, of course, it all comes down to money. The Catholic Church
might continue to discriminate against lesbian and gay couples if the
Church found the millions of pounds it costs annually to run its
adoption societies. In the current system most of the money comes from
the Government and it will find it hard, if not impossible, to give the
exemptions the Church asks for.
This is not an argument with two
sides. This is not a debate between Catholic rights and gay rights -
this is about very vulnerable children, thousands of them, waiting in
inappropriate conditions for a loving family to help mend broken
hearts. Many of these kids have disabilities - many have been in as
many as 20 and more different short-term placements.
The children
in our care system are who we should be putting first and for their
sake alone the Catholic Church should move on. If its agencies place
children with a gay or lesbian couple the whole world knows it will not
be because they want to but because those acting for the children's
best interests think that that is where that child might flourish - and
if it is a home like ours, where the child would be taught the faith,
so much the better.
And what of us? We have already had
mentioned to us a couple of children who have such profound
disabilities that they will never know the gender, yet alone the
sexuality of the loving parents they need. They cannot see nor hear and
will only know love from the tender way they are cared for. If only the
Church could know this love.
I love, and am completely hooked on, the tv-show, "24." I would pay a substantial sum of money to somehow have the first five seasons erased from my mind, thereby making it possible for me to start over and enjoy them, like new, again. So, I was curious about this op-ed, by Brian Carney, in the Wall Street Journal, about the "moral philosophy" of Jack Bauer.
Carney is impressed by the fact that, on "24", "tragic choices" abound, and are rarely presented as simple, or as having easy answers. (This is not to say that the show proclaims there aren't right answers, just that it is rarely clear, ex ante, what they are.)
Fair enough. That said, I would have liked for Carney to at least that at least some of the things Bauer has done -- with admirably other-regarding motives, of course -- are, well, evil. Aren't they?
Prof. Gary Becker and Hon. Richard Posner have a recent Wall Street Journal op-ed about the minimum wage, called "How to Make the Poor Poorer." (Link here, thanks to the Volokh Conspiracy.) Here is an excerpt:
An increase in the minimum wage raises the costs of fast foods and other goods produced with large inputs of unskilled labor. Producers adjust both by substituting capital inputs and/or high-skilled labor for minimum-wage workers and, because the substitutes are more costly (otherwise the substitutions would have been made already), by raising prices. The higher prices reduce the producers' output and thus their demand for labor. The adjustments to the hike in the minimum wage are inefficient because they are motivated not by a higher real cost of low-skilled labor but by a government-mandated increase in the price of that labor. That increase has the same misallocative effect as monopoly pricing.
Although some workers benefit — those who were paid the old minimum wage but are worth the new, higher one to the employers — others are pushed into unemployment, the underground economy or crime. The losers are therefore likely to lose more than the gainers gain; they are also likely to be poorer people. And poor families are disproportionately hurt by the rise in the price of fast foods and other goods produced with low-skilled labor because these families spend a relatively large fraction of their incomes on such goods. And many, maybe most, of the gainers from a higher minimum wage are not poor. Most minimum-wage workers are part time, and for the majority their minimum-wage income supplements an income derived from other sources.
Now, I realize that there are solid and serious economists who believe that we can increase the minimum wage without harming the poor. I do not know, for sure, who has the better of the argument. I would think, though, that we could all agree that it really matters who is right, for purposes of evaluating what seems to be the near-unanimous view among those who care about Catholic Social Thought that the minimum wage should be increased. Do the bishops, and those who promote this view, know whether or not Becker and Posner are right? I take it we could agree entirely with Eduardo about the dangers of economic inequality but still think the minimum-wage question depends on answering -- or at least addressing -- some tough empirical questions?