The recent discussion here about families brings to mind Maritain's observation that the history of families is no prettier than that of any other human history, including that of "the state." Different authorities -- family is one among many, and the state is the servant of all of them -- do better at different times. The difficulty, I suspect, is to stay with the insight that the authority of parents over their children is primary and does not depend from moment to moment on its correct or successful exercise, at least not in the main. Most mistakes do not divest parents of the rights that are the correlative of their duties to their children; some mistakes may, either temporarily or perhaps permanently. I can't quote anything as snappy as the poem Mark S. adduced, but I was just now motivated to look up this moving-because-realistic passage from Maritain: "Not only the examples of parents, and the rules of conduct which they inculcate, and the religious habits and inspiration which they further, and the memories of their own lineage which they convey, in short the educational work which they directly perform, but also, in a more general way, the common experiences and trials, efforts, sufferings and hopes, and the daily labor of family life, and the daily love which pushes forward in the midst of slaps and kisses, constitute the normal fabric where the feelings and the will as of the child are naturally shaped." Freakishly bad parenting will need to be supplanted and compensated for, but the ordinary sort, which is, after all, just ordinary, has both the right to go forward and the hope of freely given help.
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
Families
Breaking News on Abortion from the European Court of Human Rights
This from our Irish friend, Gerry Whyte:
Yesterday the European Court of Human Rights handed down a decision on abortion that may prove controversial, at least in countries, like Ireland, with a restrictive abortion regime. The press statement prepared by the Registrar of the Court may be read at
The judgment itself may be read at
Families
Mike Perry's quotation of R.D. Laing on families, who has a lot to answer for about a lot of things, including romanticization of mental illness, reminds me of Phillip Larkin's bitter poem that begins:
They fuck you up, your mum and dad,
They may not mean to, but they do
Larkin ends with this advice:
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.
Well, so much for families, I guess. But maybe even Larkin and Laing would admit that orphanges, foster homes, and the streets will fuck you up, too. And maybe they would acknbowledge that with parents, or someone like parents who love you, you have a chance of becoming a person.
-- Mark
More on Children's Rights
Michael P. raises a good point about the darker side of family life, and my essay is not intended to gloss over the fact that our fallen nature extends to our most intimate relationships. Indeed, elsewhere in the essay I acknowledge:
A refuge of intimacy and tenderness in a world frequently lacking both, the family has traditionally been shielded from state intrusion that, in deference to parental authority, still shapes American law. And yet every day headlines recount another heartbreaking story of a family that has served not as a refuge from suffering, but as the source of it.
Still, the question is not whether parents are always ideal caregivers, but whether -- and under what circumstances -- the state is better situated than parents to make the judgment about the child's care. The vast majority of parents are naturally wired to love their kids sacrificially in ways that defy any sort of cost-benefit analysis. My love for my kids often seems overwhelming, and it is not entirely of my own choosing. That's the innate depth of parental love on which the family is built. Without question, that parental love is sorely lacking in some families and is manifested in troubling ways in others, and that's why the prospect of state intervention must be part of the conversation about children's well-being. But these are exceptions to the rule of nature; my concern with children's rights is their tendency to transform the exception into the rule.
Miscellanea
Rob Vischer writes, in his post below, that "the family ... is ... the community where the human person loves most deeply, sacrifices most nobly, and relates most authentically." Taken as, in part, an autobiographical statement, we can all envy Rob. But surely, and sadly, there are many whose autobiographies would lead them to find a greater resonance in something the British psychoanalyst R.D. Laing said about familes, namely, that they are machines for the making of crazy people.
In any event, for the theologically inclined among MOJ readers, there is a terrific article in the new issue of Modern Theology: Lieven Boeve, "Europe in Crisis: A Question of Belief or Unbelief? Perspectives from the Vatican," 23:2 (April 2007), 205-27.
Who Speaks for the Child?
I have an essay in the new issue of Commonweal in which I address the thorny issue of children's rights and push back against the prescriptions of scholars such as James Dwyer and Emily Buss while cautioning against a return to the archaic conception of the child as parental property. It's only available by subscription, but here's an excerpt:
Ultimately, the tension created by the children’s rights movement is captured in a single question: Whom do we trust to care for the child? Once the state assumes the authority to speak for a child, what happens if the parents fall into a category of people-for example, drug abusers, prisoners, the mentally incompetent-who tend not to act in a way that is most supportive of a child’s future autonomy? Under Dwyer’s prescription, these parents would bear the burden of proving their worth before the state permitted them to act as parents. It is not difficult to imagine future calls to expand the category of those presumed to be unfit parents to include individuals who would threaten their child’s autonomy by passing on misogynist or homophobic religious beliefs. When parenthood exists as a creation of the state, the boundaries of state power become difficult to discern.
The state must tread lightly and cautiously whenever it seeks to enlarge its regulatory presence within the family, even when its motivation is noble and its aims laudatory. We cherish the family because it is the social foundation of human experience -- the community where the human person loves most deeply, sacrifices most nobly, and relates most authentically. It is much more than a mere training ground for the future exercise of autonomy, and its value is not readily captured in the language of public norms and legal rights. We would do well to recall the perspective of Catholic social teaching, as expressed in chapter 5 of the Compendium of the Social Doctrine of the Church: “The family,” it reminds us, “does not exist for society or the state, but society and the state exist for the family.”
Happy World Down Syndrome Day!
I do find endless proclamations of particular "days" in commemoration of particular causes somewhat tiresome, but I'm utterly co-opted into supporting this one:
Down Syndrome International (DSI) has officially earmarked 21 March as World Down Syndrome Day (WDSD). The date was chosen to signify the uniqueness of Down syndrome in the triplication (trisomy) of the 21st chromosome and is used synonymously with Down syndrome.
Singapore was selected to launch the inaugural WDSD in 2006. The event, held at the CHIJ Secondary School in Toa Payoh, in the heartlands of Singapore was very successful and well attended. Many other organisations worldwide joined in the celebrations with events and activities in their respective countries.
This year the theme for 21 March 2007 is "Celebrating Diversity", to continue creating awareness about Down syndrome and promote acceptance of diversity.
All DSI members and related organisations worldwide are encouraged to observe the WDSD together with the community in an appropriate manner.
Just take a look at this web-page listing the events and sending greetings from organizations from all over the world: Singapore, the U.K., Israel, France, Malaysia, Sweden, Oman, Poland, Germany, South Africa, Saudi Arabia, Norway, India, Kosova, Portugal, Brazil, Switzerland, and the Netherlands. Have you ever seen so many beautiful kids? Nothing from the U.S., though.....
Competing Anthropologies and the Neutral State: A Reply to Dr. Kittay
Thank you Eva for you thoughtful response to my post. I heartily agree with much of what you say. You seem (or so it seems to me) to implicitly accept the notion that in a pluralistic society like ours, the dominant culture (including its manifestation in the state) must be neutral as to competing comprehensive conceptions of the good. But, as many liberal scholars (Carens, Dwyer, among others) have pointed out, liberal neutrality is an illusion. Some comprehensive conception of the good is going to dominate in each society - it might be Christian or secular enlightenment (I use this term because you used it in your post, others might call it secular liberal or just liberal) in the U.S., Jewish or secular enlightenment in Israel, and Muslim or secular enlightenment in Turkey. And, in each of these democracies, a key question is how much space is going to be allotted for non-believers (those who don't abide by the dominant comprehensive conception of the good) to develop and live their lives in their own communities according to their own comprehensive conceptions of the good. For example, will Turkey allow the reopening of an Orthodox seminary so that Turkish Christians can perpetuate their faith intergenerationally? How much space (metaphorically speaking) will Israel give to its Arab (both Christian and Muslim) minorities to develop? Among secular liberals today, the question of how much space to give Christians is much contested. Must Christian pharmacists and nurses be made to conform to secular norms regarding abortificients and abortions as the price of practicing their profession? Must Catholic Charities abide by secular norms when it comes to offering health insurance to its employees? Must Christian student groups sacrifice their Christian identity as the price for admission on college campuses? Must Catholic adoption agencies conform to secular norms regarding adoptions by gay parents as the price of continiuing to perform this work that has been performed by the Church for 2000 years? James Dwyer would even have Christian schools and Christian parents conform to his secular liberal values as the price of educating and parenting.
If I am right about this, then we ought to explore the *reasons* for adopting one competing comprehensive conception of the good over another as the dominant or foundational anthropology for our culture (including its laws).
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
Kittay's Response to Michael S.
Here is Dr. Kittay's response to Michael's post:
I have basically two responses to Michael S.
Of course, I agree that in seeking legislative change, we have to attempt to get a broad coalition. But the notion of an overlapping consensus requires something besides what looks like a mere modus vivendi, and such coalition building may be merely that. Once a piece of legislation is enacted, we go our separate ways. Yes we want a richer pluralism to which we bring our whole selves and that is what it means to find an overlapping consensus. Finding an overlapping consensus involves all parties sharing the principle that people have a right to have differing comprehensive conceptions of the good, which also means these each of these comprehensive conceptions have to allow for those other than our own to differ from our own in significant ways. These conceptions of the good, as I said at the conference, are not mere momentary preferences. A comprehensive conception of the good informs our values, the meaning we understand our lives to have, and both prescribes and proscribes behavior. Clearly differing conceptions of the good share understandings of what is valuable, permissible, and desirable, even if these understandings are differently grounded and justified. But it is just as evident that differing conceptions are also competing conceptions of the good, and differences of some moment do arise. What is important to the idea of an overlapping consensus is that we can convince each other without insisting that the other must accept our own comprehensive conception of the good, and this is what Rawls speaks of as a commitment to public reason. I should be able to convince you of a belief or the acceptability of a practice on grounds that we both can accept.
For example, it is possible that, you a practicing Catholic, and I a secular Jew, can agree that women and men should each be able to contribute both to the realms of work (however that is defined) and to family life (however that is defined). That men and women alike should be able to reap the benefits of work and family and carry the burdens associated with each realm. You may hold these views based on beliefs grounded in religious teachings, and you may invoke the writings of Pope John II. I hold these views based on secular Enlightenment ideals of equality and would try to show that Enlightenment ideas of equality should be realized in equality of opportunity for men and women (and I might cite a number of philosophers beginning with John Stuart Mill and Mary Wollstonecraft). I would add that if we carefully examine what most of us value having opportunity for, we would find that access to and obligations in the realms of BOTH work and family are equally salient. (I guess the latter can be justified just "by looking around.")
On the basis of our shared views we could agree to principles of equal pay for equal work, more flexible work arrangements, paid family and medical leave, among others. I suspect, however, that the different sources of our beliefs would probably show up when we fill in the details of the desired policies. We may have differences about who is entitled to 'family' leave.
At this point, is it really helpful for the religious thinker to insist that her views are deeper, or richer? Is it really helpful for the secularist to insist that her views are more rational? Or for either to insist that her views are truer? Is it not more valuable for us to try to convince each other on the basis of beliefs we share and the sorts of reasons we can each accept? That is, we have to try to convince each other, not on the basis of our comprehensive conceptions of the good—you will not convince me that a gay man raising a child with another gay man is not entitled to family leave because Catholic teaching on the family does not qualify this as a family. I will not convince you on the basis of my secular beliefs, which would hold that we have no basis on which to tell anyone whom they may love.
We might however agree that a sick child requires someone at home who cares more about that child than a distant relative or a stranger might. We might also agree that someone who is raising a child adequately fits the description of someone for whom the child’s welfare is paramount—irrespective of whom that individual chooses as a sexual partner. We might even agree that such a person should be able to go to the sick child not only for the child's sake, but for his own sake--because the well-being of that child is so vitally important to him. If we can agree to all that than we should be able to agree on a ‘family’ leave policy expansive enough to include gay men or lesbian women raising children. When I worry about a religious feminism that is too restrictive in what it considers a family to be, I am not necessarily trying to convince that feminist to embrace my view of family as much as I am concerned that limiting family to the heterosexual two-parent monogamous family will stand in the way of achieving the sort of well-being for ourselves and our neighbors that we may both wish to see.
Which gets me to the second point. I cannot see how a Christian anthropology provides a sturdier foundation for feminism--for me at least--as I don’t hold to the positions of that Christian anthropology. Christian anthropology does not serve as a foundation for my beliefs. I, on the other hand, cannot understand why the fundamental dependency which all humans share should not be understood as a fundamental basis for social, ethical and political values. It is, after all, because of that dependency and vulnerability that humans collect in groups and form social and political organization. We need each other to help nurture and protect our dependents, and to be protected and nurtured ourselves as we have been or become dependent—and of course we are dependent always in innumerable ways. Contractarians such as Locke, Hobbes, Rousseau, Kant and Rawls have yet to adequately explain why fully independent beings would ever need one another enough to form coherent social organizations. It is only when feminists begin to uncover the implicit masculine bias and perspective in all these thinkers (even I regret to say, John Rawls) that we begin to see the role women have played in social life, and the role their work in caring for dependents has had in the formation of ethical, social, and political life.
This is not a “sez who” matter. This is a question of thinking through very difficult questions—looking at what some of our best thinkers have had to say and judging it against the reality in which we live. Women today have attained a level of participation in public life that they scarcely have had before. The social technologies that have been in place are changing as a consequence and old theories appear in a new light. Some foundations don’t serve us too well, even when they served others before us—and given the tragedies of the human race we have to wonder how well they have served us. So I, for one, relish the position of a maverick, in the hope of building better foundations than those on which we have had to rely so far. I see this as a communal project, one that I very much hope religious and secular feminists can construct together.
What Would CST, P.A. Look Like?
I got a great set of questions from an MOJ reader in response to my description of UST's Restructuring the Workplace symposium:
I am curious to know if the academics who spoke at the conference have ever tried to start their own law firms governed by the principles of Catholic Social Teaching, or whether the MOJ bloggers (or other Catholic lawyers) have ever talked about starting a law firm built on the principles of Catholic Social Teaching? I think it would be an interesting project.
I would also be curious to know what such a law firm might look like. How would the firm structure the pay scale, or the relative pay between partners, associates and other employees? What kind of ownership structure would be appropriate? What kind of fees would they charge their clients? What kind of pro bono commitment would be required? How many billable hours would be expected? Would hours even be counted? What sort of mentoring would be expected? What would be done with excess profits?
I know the Focolare movement has some businesses that distribute their excess profits to the Focolare community, which then distributes them around the world to other community members. (I think the book describing their economic philosophy is called The Economy of Communion.) Would a law firm governed by Catholic Social Teaching follow the same principles?Given that a great number of modern lawyers are overworked, unhappy, and engaged in jobs that have nothing to do with the promotion of justice, is a new kind of law firm the sort of project that Catholic lawyers (especially academics!) ought to be involved in founding? Would a law firm based on the principles of Catholic Social Teaching be the kind of witness the legal profession needs?
Here's my opening gambit: CST, P.A. would offer the same maternity leave benefits instituted a few years ago by the Australian Catholic University -- a full year of maternity leave, with the first 12 weeks at full pay, and an additional 40 weeks at 60% pay. This would be available to staff and lawyers, and to men and women with primary caregiving responsibility. For a comprehensive discussion of why I think this would be appropriate for a law firm governed by Catholic Social Teachings, see my forthcoming article, Motherhood and the Mission: What Catholic Law Schools Could Learn From Harvard About Women.