I have read with interest the various posts regarding Catholic communal attachments (or lack thereof). My own background is much as that described by Mark: I grew up in Sts. Simons and Jude (the only meaningful way to identify where in Brooklyn I came from); we went to SSJ grammar school; we played volleyball in a parish league in the SSJ school yard every Saturday, except for my brother, who played CYO softball; my parents ran the parish youth center and served on the parish council; my mom taught CCD and was a Columbiette, my dad was in the K of C, etc, etc., etc. Everyone's lives were built around the parish.
My current experience in Port Washington (a burb on the North Shore of Nassau County) is very different but I'm not convinced the difference is primarily city vs. suburban issue. First, I think Greg is quite correct that the presence or absence of a parish school makes an extraordinary difference. My experience in SSJ bears out the truth of his observation that familial involvement in the school leads to a greater involvement generally in the life of the chuch. My current parish does not have a school and, while people generally do hang aound after mass (no one leaves immediately after communion), it takes a lot more effort to keep people involved.
Another factor that I think is very important is the declining number of religious - both priests and nuns. SSJ always had at least 5 priests and several deacons, not to mention a flock of nuns the whole time I was growing up there. My current parish (albeit much smaller) has one priest and two nuns. When I grew up, the priests and nuns were a constant fixture in the neighborhood - just walking around, constantly at the home of one neighbor or the other, attending our volleyball games etc. Now it is true that people walked around a lot more in Brooklyn than they do in Port Washington (I'm not saying there is no truth to the city vs. suburb point), but the numbers make a big difference.
I also agree with Greg that there is a problem in what he calls the "prevailing mind-set in the typlical Catholic parish." My sense is that Catholic parishes too easily buy into a view that people have a lot of things demanding their attention and that the Church should not be adding to their burden of responsibilities. I, for example, once heard a nun say that all Holy Days of Obligation should be changed to Sunday so that people don't have to go to mass an additional time during the week. I find it hard to accept that it is a great burden to spend one additional hour (actually most masses take less than one hour) each week in communal workshop on those few Holy Days of Obligation that we still celebrate. While I agree we all must take responsibility, I also think the leaders of the parish must set a tone that suggests something more than attending mass once a week is called for.
Tuesday, October 25, 2005
Rosa Parks, who almost 50 years ago precipitated a major civil rights movement by refusing to give up her seat on a bus to a white man, died yesterday at the age of 92. Her act of courage is an inspiration to all who work for justice and peace. Thank you, Rosa. Click here for the New York Times piece today about her life and death.