Wednesday, July 10, 2013
"My Mother's Adoption: A Tale of Two Texans"
Powerful testimony.
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Merfish writes with pride about her mom’s choice to kill her brother or sister because he or she was a few years early for her parents’ taste. Today, I’m writing with pride about my mom’s choice to save my brother’s life and give him a loving, intact family that could provide him the life he deserved. Merfish’s mom had to endure the judgmental attitudes of the abortionist. My mom had to endure months of morning sickness and ten hours of labor and delivery. Then she endured the pain of letting another woman, a woman who was ready to be a mom, take her baby boy home.
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Merfish’s mom married her dad shortly after her abortion. They finished college and went on to have better-timed children and, presumably, successful lives. My mom later met a dashing grad student at that commuter college. They married, graduated, had two daughters, successful careers, and are now approaching a secure retirement. Choosing life, no matter how inconvenient, doesn’t have to end anyone’s chance at the American Dream.
Merfish’s mom taught her that the right to kill an inconvenient child is sacred. Merfish ends her piece in The New York Times with a call for more such “bravery.” My mom taught me that every child, no matter the inconvenience, is sacred. She made a heroic sacrifice to give my brother the life he deserved; she offered her suffering and sorrow to protect an innocent child’s rights instead of her own. Memo to The New York Times: that’s bravery worth celebrating.
https://mirrorofjustice.blogs.com/mirrorofjustice/2013/07/my-mothers-adoption-a-tale-of-two-texans.html
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"because he or she was a few years early for her parents’ taste"
I recently was reading a book about Catholic scholar who as a young man went to India to study and met a woman who he fell in love with and married. Her father converted to Islam but even before meeting the person who would become her husband she was thinking about becoming Catholic. A major influence were the nuns at her school, who she found loving people == she connected such love to Catholicism.
Then, we have the lack of empathy in this statement that is also I'm sorry somewhat a lie. Isn't that a breach of a commandment? I go to the op-ed and the "because" is ... "they were thoroughly unprepared to be parents." Not a matter of "taste" or anything. Also, many women just cannot give up their children for adoption. To them, it is immoral to trust the person to another, in fact a sin. They think at least an early abortion (see references to "abortion" pills / Plan B) is the better option. Many Christian religions agree. They don't each think that you "kill a brother or sister" by having an early term abortion.
Who decides when a "sacrifice" should be made? And, if we want a person to make one, perhaps we should have a bit more empathy and honesty on just what choice they made. People have limited number of children on average these days. It is more than "inconvenience" that people -- in part via birth control the Catholic Church rejects, including birth control pills that act in the way of Plan B -- don't have lots of children. They make many "brave" choices.
I respect the choices made by both women and both their stories, without misleading glosses, should be heard.