"One Is Enough"

Rob notes (below) one depressing article from today's New York Times. Here is another: "When One Is Enough," in the Magazine, is the account of a Manhattan woman who learns that she is pregnant with triplets, and then "looked at [her boyfriend] and asked the doctor: 'Is it possible to get rid of one of them? Or two of them?' The obstetrician wasn't an expert in selective reduction, but she knew that with a shot of potassium chloride you could eliminate one or more." Having told readers that she lectures at colleges, and lives in a Manhattan walk-up, she confides: "When I found out about the triplets, I felt like: It's not the back of a pickup at 16, but now I'm going to have to move to Staten Island. I'll never leave my house because I'll have to care for these children. I'll have to start shopping only at Costco and buying big jars of mayonnaise." She continues: "When we saw the specialist, we found out that I was carrying identical twins and a stand alone. My doctors thought the stand alone was three days older. There was something psychologically comforting about that, since I wanted to have just one. Before the procedure, I was focused on relaxing. But Peter was staring at the sonogram screen thinking: Oh, my gosh, there are three heartbeats. I can't believe we're about to make two disappear."

Heartbreaking.

Rick